Emotions for  Caregivers

Caregivers and Emotions
  
First of all, thank you from Up Cancer and on behalf of all cancer survivors.  As a caregiver during cancer treatment and remission, you are not thanked enough! Thank caregivers for your help. 

During cancer treatment, most caregivers tend to put their emotions aside, and this can lead to a higher rate of depression. Holding in your emotions can cause you additional undue stress to the relationship with the persons who are dealing with cancer. It is not uncommon for a cancer survivor and partner to split up after one has completed cancer treatment and is now in remission.  Our goal is to help you become aware of these emotions to help you through this journey that builds a better bond with each other. 

It is important to deal with these emotions to keep a healthy relationship or grow into a healthier emotional relationship with the cancer survivor.

We created a list and descriptions of these emotions to help you describe your emotions.  Learning to describe your emotions will help you to deal with them:

If you find yourself feeling these emotions for more than 2 weeks or depressed, it is important to go to a caregiver support group or find someone who can help you to describe your emotions like a counselor.  Holding in your emotions and not dealing with them will cause you to become irritable and effects your relationships with others.

Guilt is a common emotion for caregivers.  Caregivers can feel guilty for being healthy, feeling frustrated, happy, or even feeling responsible for the persons cancer, you may feel guilty you are not helping enough.   

Sadness is a common issue for caregivers. They can be sad to see what the cancer survivor is going though.  They can be sad on how the relationship is now compared to before.  They can be sad for not having the finance to do more.  There are many reason for sadness. You not alone in these feelings. 

Anger is a very common emotion many cancer survivors struggle.  One can be angry for not being recognized enough for the work they do.   One can be angry at the insurance system or even how long it might take to get results.  One can be angry for not being able to do more or be angry at God.  Your anger is a normal feeling.  It is important to learn how to describe theses emotions, so you can start to work on them.

Greif is a deep sorrow.  You can easily grieve what the cancer survivor is going though.  You can grieve in anticipation of death.  You can even delay grief, or a cancer diagnoses can cause you to stir up emotions from the past loss.

Loneliness is a common when you are a caregiver.  You can feel like you are the only person going through this struggle.  It can cause you to not talk to the cancer survivor for you are trying to hide your emotions.  Hiding your emotions can cause you to feel isolated.  Some days you are going from work to helping at the house to visiting your partner at the hospital.  As a friend you can now feel isolated to the one going to cancer treatment for you do not know what to say.  It is important to talk about these emotions and find a caregiver support group.  The more emotionally healthy you are the better you can be present for your friend/partner during this time.

Stress: a cancer diagnoses is stressful for all parties that are involved.  As a caregiver, there are new financial stress to stresses in communication.  It is important that you learn how to take care of your stress level.



  

"Your not alone in your feelings.  It is important to kind and forgive yourself during the journey."  Rico Dence Founder Up Cancer